Okay, so, I’ve been messing around with this thing called “the Hermit love,” and let me tell you, it’s been a bit of a journey. It all started when I was feeling kinda lost, you know? Like, I was in this relationship, but something felt off. I couldn’t put my finger on it, but I just wasn’t feeling that spark anymore. That’s when I stumbled upon this idea of the Hermit.
Now, I’m not really into all that mystical stuff, but the concept intrigued me. It’s basically about taking a step back from everything, especially relationships, and just focusing on yourself. Sounds simple, right? Well, it’s not as easy as it sounds. The first thing I did was tell my partner that I needed some space. That was a tough conversation, let me tell you. But I knew it was necessary. I needed time to figure things out without any external pressure.
So, I started spending more time alone. I’d go for long walks in nature, just me and my thoughts. I also started journaling again, something I hadn’t done in years. It was kinda awkward at first, like, what do I even write about? But eventually, the words started flowing. I wrote about my feelings, my doubts, my past relationships, all that stuff.
- Long walks. Seriously, it’s amazing what a bit of fresh air and some quiet time can do.
- Journaling. It’s like having a conversation with yourself. Kinda weird, but surprisingly helpful.
- Reading. I dusted off some old self-help books and some of my fiction favorites. They gave me a lot to think about.
During this time, I also realized that I had been neglecting my own personal growth. I was so wrapped up in the relationship that I had forgotten about my own goals and dreams. So, I started focusing on those again. I took an online course, started learning a new language, just little things to keep me busy and moving forward.
The Realization
After a few weeks of this, I started to feel a shift. I was feeling more… centered, I guess? More at peace with myself. And that’s when it hit me. The problem wasn’t necessarily the relationship, it was me. I had been relying on my partner for my happiness, and that’s just not fair, you know? I realized that true happiness comes from within. It starts with self-love and self-awareness.
Now, I’m not saying that the Hermit thing is a magic solution for all relationship problems. But for me, it was a wake-up call. It helped me understand that a healthy relationship is not about losing yourself in the other person. It’s about two individuals coming together, each with their own strengths and weaknesses, and supporting each other’s growth. I communicated with my partner and now we are better than before.
So, yeah, that’s my experience with the Hermit love. It’s been a messy, sometimes uncomfortable, but ultimately rewarding journey. It’s about taking the time to understand yourself, your needs, and your desires, and then making choices that are true to who you are. And that, my friends, is a journey worth taking.
