Okay, so I’ve been messing around with Tarot cards for a while now, mostly just for fun and a little bit of self-reflection. I decided to do a reading focused specifically on the “love outcome” of a, well, situation I’ve got going on. And the card I pulled was the 4 of Cups. Let me tell you, it was a bit of a journey figuring this one out.
My 4 of Cups Love Reading
First, I prepped my space. I like to make it a little ritualistic, you know? I lit some incense (sandalwood, my favorite), put on some chill background music, and cleared off my coffee table. I’m not super strict about it, but I like the vibe it creates. Then I shuffled my deck, focusing on my question. To be very honest, I was kinda nervous, I really focused hard on the person and the, situation.
I use a Rider-Waite deck, the classic one. I find the imagery is easier for me to connect with. So, I shuffled, cut the deck, and laid out a single card for the “outcome.” And boom – 4 of Cups.
My initial reaction was… confusion. I mean, the image on the card is this guy sitting under a tree, looking kinda bored or withdrawn. Three cups are in front of him, and a fourth is being offered to him by a hand coming out of a cloud. He doesn’t even seem to notice it. Not exactly the romantic fireworks I was hoping for, am I right?
So I dug into the process. I grabbed my favorite Tarot guidebook (I just use simple ones, I have read many books in my time, and I picked the best and simplest one). I also did some quick Googling, just to see what different interpretations were out there. It was all kinda pointing to the same general themes:
- Apathy and Indifference: Like, a feeling of “meh” about the whole thing.
- Missed Opportunities: Not seeing what’s right in front of you.
- Introspection and Withdrawal: Needing time to think things over, maybe being a bit emotionally unavailable.
- Boredom and Discontent: Feeling restless or unsatisfied, even if things aren’t necessarily bad.
Honestly, it felt like a bit of a gut punch at first. I was like, “Seriously? This is the outcome?” I wanted passionate romance, not emotional blah-ness.
But then I sat with it for a while. I looked at the card again, really looked at it. And I started to think about how it applied to my specific situation. It wasn’t about the other person being totally uninterested, but I started seeing how I might be contributing to the “meh” feeling. Maybe I was being too passive, waiting for things to happen instead of making a move. Maybe I was so focused on what I thought I wanted that I was missing some good things that were already there.
The “missed opportunity” thing really hit home. I realized I’d been so caught up in my head, analyzing everything, that I probably hadn’t been fully present or appreciative of the small moments. I took out my jounal, and began to list every single detail, from the moment I felt connected to this person, till the moment I pulled the card out.
So, the 4 of Cups, as a “love outcome,” wasn’t the fairytale ending I’d initially envisioned. But it was a wake-up call. I recorded every feeling and findings in my journal. It’s telling me to get out of my head, to be more present, and to pay attention to what’s actually happening, not what I wish was happening. It’s about re-evaluating my own feelings and expectations, and maybe taking some time for myself to figure out what I truly want. It is not about others. It is about myself.
It’s not a “yes” or a “no” answer, which is frustrating but also…realistic. Love is messy, and sometimes the outcome is about needing to work on yourself before you can really connect with someone else. I even drew another clarifying card, it was The Star. So it’s not a completely hopeless situation, I still got hope, I still got a chance to turn things around, I need to trust myself. I will start doing things differently this week, no more over thinking, no more being passive. I even came up with some small actions, like being more expressive and show more appreciation.
I’m still processing it all, to be honest. But that’s the thing about Tarot, isn’t it? It’s not about predicting the future, it’s about giving you a different perspective and prompting you to think. And the 4 of Cups, while not the most romantic card, definitely did that for me.
